The Silent Moments of Rejection

Matthew 1: 18-25 today reminds us of the virginal conception of Christ. It also reminds us of the legitimacy of Christ as a descendant of David through adoption by Joseph. A deep reflection of this text draws our minds to a brief moment in the life of Mary and Jesus which we could term; “the silent moments of rejection”.

18 This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit.19 Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.

20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus,because he will save his people from their sins.”

22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel”(which means “God with us”).

24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. 25 But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus. Matthew 1: 18-25 (New International Version – NIV)

 Imagine what Mary would have gone through knowing that she was likely to be divorced? She would not be the only one to be rejected but the child also. Even before Jesus was born, there were already signs of him being rejected even by his own people. But of course we cannot fault Joseph in the circumstances he found himself.

Let’s look around and see how many babies have been rejected by their fathers. How many women are going through the pains of rejection just because a man somewhere is being irresponsible? This calls for us to ask ourselves serious questions. Would I as a woman want to bear a child when I am not ready? As a man am I ready to bear responsibility for my actions?

We can also look at the need for a fatherly love even if it is the love of a foster or step-father. Jesus needed that love of a foster father, remember he was God and Man. To all lovely fathers, I say you are a beauty to behold. My heart goes out to you all who take care of children who are not your own. God bless you!!!

I share in the pains of all those who have never known the love of a father. And if you have ever abandoned a child you are supposed to father please go and look for that child. Their pains of rejection cry out to heaven. If only all of us would be responsible and take responsibility for the children we bear, the world would never know the pains of rejection.

Have a spirit-filled day. Peace and Joy

Written by Rev. Fr. Courage Dogbey

Prayer (The Silent Moments of Rejection)

Dear Lord, help us to be responsible for our actions. Whatever action we have taken that may have been heartless, forgive us and help us to correct them in Jesus.

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